If you follow me on Instagram or know me IRL, you’ll know I frequent the gym. The truth is I need to be more consistent (I’ve literally been saying this for an entire year now), but when I do go I generally learn at least one thing while I’m there. Sometimes it’s when I’m behind the desk, other times it’s when I’m working out.
I feel like the most valuable lessons we can learn are ones that are taught the hard way, through either physical or mental trials.
Both kinds have come my way, and they’ve truly changed the way I look at everyone who not only sets foot in the gym, but who I come across in daily life. I won’t go into the little jams that only apply to myself, I’m only gonna share the biggins. The ones that have really altered my way of thinking.
First and foremost: we all start somewhere. And I literally can’t stress this enough.
- The biggest and baddest power lifter in the building was once a noob
- The CEO of the company you work for was hired at entry level
- The chick whose lost a hundred pounds had to lose ten first
- At one point, Bob Ross made his first brush stroke
I can go on and on about this. On. And on. And on. I know you get it. The hard part is applying it when we see someone on top of their game or profession. Sometimes I have a hard time with it too, but it’s a simple fact that can’t be argued. More times than not, it takes work to get to where we want to go, which leads me into my life lesson which is…..
Persistence is the key to success.
“If you can’t fly, then run, if you can’t run then walk if you can’t walk then crawl, but whatever you do you have to keep moving forward” – Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.
- a marathoner wouldn’t be a marathoner
- an American flag wouldn’t be on the moon
- women still wouldn’t have the right to vote
- NYC wouldn’t have a single sky scraper
- I would still weigh over 300lbs
Overcoming the bumps on any path worth going down is part of it, whether it’s losing weight or working your way up a corporate ladder. It takes a lot of energy to do it, and that brings me to the last lesson…
It’s okay to be selfish.
Yes, I said it. It is 100% our right to say “no” to things that won’t bring us closer to reaching your goals or set us up to be a better person.
- If we can’t resist over indulging at restaurants, it’s okay to say no to dinner with family
- If going out for one drink turns into 10 and it prevents us from doing what we need to the next day, it’s okay to say no to drinks
- It’s okay to remove toxic people from our life who hold us back and don’t want us to succeed
- We can say “no” simply because we just don’t want to. Plain and simple.
These all seem like common sense, but for someone like me who lived my life wading through water because I didn’t want to make waves, these are life altering realizations. It took me a long time to live this way and to be honest I still fall into the “I feel obligated” mindset, but the more I break it the easier it gets.
The only person I’m obligated to please is myself, and that goes for everybody else.